The host of Get Divas, a radio show on 102.5 FM, draws criticism as well as praise for her straightforwardness. Here, the self-confessed party girl explains how she deals with whiners and how Buddhism changed her life for the better.

Most people think a DJ just plays music and talks about music, but to me, Get Divas is more like a breakfast show. We talk about what people talk about with friends—from love to friendship, work and sex—and we invite the listeners to call in and share their experiences.

Sometimes we get criticized and told that we are being too aggressive. But I’m not saying that my opinion is right or that yours is wrong. And yes, some of my opinions are quite judgmental. That’s why we have four people on our show, to balance things out.

Don’t whine. We love to hear constructive comments. Whining is useless.

It’s impossible to please everyone, especially in the public arena. You cannot expect everybody to like you or like what you do.

They say good girls go to heaven and bad girls go everywhere—and I went everywhere.

When I was a kid, I was rebellious, stubborn, flirtatious and very self-centered. I did everything that a teenager is not supposed to do. But my grades were very good, so that’s a good thing for me, but a bad thing for my parents because they couldn’t do anything to me, even though I came back home at 3am.

When I was 15, I met a cousin who helped me through the problems teenagers have: arguments with parents, break ups. He always gave me good and practical advice, so I kept calling him when I had problems. Eventually, he confessed that what he had been telling me was the principles of Lord Buddha. I was like “Oh, it wasn’t that bad or boring.” I gradually started to be interested in Buddhism and why it makes our lives better.

That was the biggest turning point in my life Lord Buddha’s teachings changed me in a big way, but it was a gradual, not a sudden change.

I was a party girl, really. But I’ve been trying to hold to the Five Precepts, since 2002 I stopped drinking. Quit totally. And I can still mingle with my friends sober and happy.

“I have to drink to socialize,” is just an excuse for those who can’t stop drinking. If you think your friends wouldn’t be your friends if you weren’t drinking, you should reconsider if you want to be their friend.

I hate telling lies. Every time I lie, bad things happen. I’ve tried, three times, just to test it out. I wanted to go somewhere so I called my boss saying I was sick, and the next day I was really sick. Still, the fourth precept [abstain from false speech] is the most difficult one for me to keep because it’s not just about lying. It covers everything from sarcasm to swearing—anything bad with your words.

You can be a good person while being modern and confident. Actually, confidence is a result of understanding yourself and understanding the world. And the whole dharma thing is nothing else but understanding yourself.

I’m not saying I’m a good person. I’m just a better person compared to my old self.

I’ve changed a lot, physically and mentally. Everybody changes. And if you don’t, you should reconsider what is wrong with you. Seriously.

People tend to think I am a funny person. That’s one side of me. But in another way, I’m a very serious person. Also, I might seem like a very outgoing girl, but I’m also very laidback. Sometimes my mom says I am too anti-social.

I am hot-tempered. It was worse when I was younger. When I used to get angry, I would ruin everything around me: conversations, friends, happy moments. But, if anybody upsets me now, then they must be a real asshole because very few things make me angry.

I don’t like being treated unfairly. Like if I am in a queue and someone suddenly cuts ahead of me… It’s not that big a deal for other people, but it is for me.

I am a straightforward, which isn’t very healthy in Thai society. Thais tend to say “It is OK. It doesn’t matter.” But for me, when it’s not OK, it’s not OK. And most people don’t like it. I’m trying to fix that, to understand more of how I should blend in.

When I give advice, it might be a little bit hurtful because it’s true. But if you are my friend, I’ll help you all the way. You’ll get everything from me, my support, my advice, everything.